Dear husband - Day 5

You are not the man of my dreams.

I can give a long list of why I love you. However, I do not love you for just that. I love you for all the wrong reasons as well. I love you for all the things that you are not, all the things that you do not do and the man of my dreams that you could never be.

I used to dream of the perfect man, the perfect husband. Just like the man in romantic movies, they are always so perfect. My dream man would never falter. He would fulfil all my needs and wants, always know what to do or say to everything even without me saying. He would take care of everything so I do not have to worry at all and live happily ever after.

However, after you came into my life, during my bad days when I'm at my worst, I realised that I would rather have you to be by my side, because you are real. Yes, you will not have all the answers to everything because noone does. However, you are always there for me physically, emotionally and spiritually to love me, lead me and support me. Needless to say for my good days because you will always be the first person to share the joy.

I am glad that you do not try making me happy or pretending to be happy every single day because a life of nothing but smiles is not a real life. We have struggles too and we fight each other too but as long as we pass through the stage, the smiles at the end would be more meaningful.

Thanks for being genuine, human, flawed, and most importantly, for never even trying to pretend that our life is like a dream. Thanks for being so patient when I'm being unreasonable. Thanks for fighting my struggles together. Thanks for knowing when to let go and let me fight my own struggles if that should be the way for me to grow and gain my victory, strength and wisdom.

Thanks for not being the man of my dreams.